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This Single Mother Did Not Give Up At The Most Difficult Times And Now She is A Successful Entrepreneur

Meet Sandita Dasgupta!

She is a teacher, she is an amateurish singer, an entrepreneur, a multitasker, but above every role which she plays she loves to be known as Ritobroto’ s mother. She is a single mother of a 10 year old champ and is bringing him up  fulfilling all his desires with the best of her abilities.

She has gone through a failed marriage. While many other chooses to live their entire life adjusting and blaming their fate she chose to overpower  her fate and write the story of her life . Let’s hear her inspiring story.

Tell us your journey as a single mother.

I got married in 2007. It was a love marriage. I knew him for almost two years before getting married. But after few months of my marriage things were not like before, it turned out to be different. He started fighting and quarrelling with me on trivial issues. Gradually things started becoming more worst. I kept on trying my level best and always took the initiative to sort them out, but it was not fruitful. In the meantime I was blessed with a baby boy on 2009, I was struck with a ray of hope , thought of forgetting the past memories and dreamt of having a beautiful family life. But it was a nightmare. He used to be drunk everytime returning from work and started abusing me both physically and mentally in front of my kid.  We used to live with our in laws,but no one protested. He had no attachment with my kid, seldom did he look for his needs and requirements. His abuses went on increasing. In the meantime I spoke to my family,they told me to have patience and wait.

Back in 2012,when my kid was almost 3years old,one day he started hitting me in front of my son, he was in state of shock, afraid, and traumatized. Right at that point of time, I have walked out straight from that house and never turned back. Later on  continued with the legal procedure,of taking the custody of my child. I haven’t taken any alimony as I was determined that I will raise my child without seeking anybody’s help.

How did you deal with it initially?

Both of us we were intimidated by his presence. Although we were  unaware about what to do next still we were happy we with our decision.

Apprehension was there,about our society,relatives, about how will they gossip about us and might mistreat my son. But, instead of living every moment under threat I chose to move out. I was pretty sure of what I can do, had faith on my abilities, and my degrees. Only one thing which brushed my mind is that my son could not grow in that unhealthy environment.

Who was your support system throughout?

Undoubtedly my family, my parents, my brother his wife  and now of course my son. Initially they were also in a state of shock but they always respected my decision and gave me moral support. I used to leave my son with them and go out for seeking jobs at various places. They used to take care of him all day long. As of now, my son has become their entire world.

What were the problems you had to face?

By God’s grace I didn’t face any  such bashes from the society nor from my relatives. Actually wheather anybody gossiped about me or not I didn’tcare my only priority was my son and his well being. Initially before I got my job I was a bit frustrated and de moralised, I needed some financial stability, so I used to  do a lot of private tuitions. After getting my job in a reputed school nearby there was no turning back.

When did you think of Giving Wings To Your Dreams?

From childhood only I was very much keen about painting and singing. Art and painting was my passion .After getting the job life was stable still sometimes I had to think twice before fulfilling small small wishes of my son. So one day I thought why not turn my passion into my profession?

Back in 2016, one fine day I was scrolling down Facebook and saw some handmade jewellery page. I got very much interested,and thought of starting the same. Started with a meagre capital in hand,I have made only 35 pairs of earrings . I have showed them to my colleagues and relatives . Within a week all got sold.

My designs were liked by all and they told me to bring more of them and pre ordered too.  This gave me a lot of boost and motivation,and I seriously made my mind to sell them professionally. Gradually I opened a online jewellery store to outreach more people. Since my jewellery were unique and available at affordable prices I was getting a lot of positive feedback and number of my customers started increasing.

I didn’t stop over here. I have decided to broaden my horizon by making hand painted saree and dress material which also gained popularity among my previous buyers as well as new people.

Recently in 2019, I have opened my own boutique store,which is running successfully by God’s grace and I am now investing maximum time into it. All these were not possible without my family, friends, colleagues, and my well wishers.

What are your future plans?

My biggest priority is to raise my son as a well educated and most importantly into a good human being.

I am also planning to open couple of branches of my boutique to increase the reach of my products. Already I am Shipping my products throughout India and now shipping beyond border are on the cards.

What is your message for those women who are still adjusting in a failed marriage?

Throughout our society we see women being dominated and threatened.My message for those women is that come out of your cocoon and make your own identity. If you are not happy then do not live in  a life just being someone’s wife. Don’t spent your entire life under threat and dominance. Be self dependent . Love yourself, cling on to your passion. There is only one life so live it to the fullest.

Interviewed & Collated By Urmi Chakrabarti Bhattacharya

Meet Sharmi Roy: The Real Life Supermom Who Would Inspire You To Never Give UP

“To describe a mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power. Or the climbing, falling colors of a rainbow.” — Maya Angelou

They say that mothers are gifted with superpowers from The Almighty to fight with all odds that come in their own and their children’s paths. The Mothers can fight with all their potential till their last breath to remove all the obstacles that hinders their child from blooming. These superpowers are nothing but their inner strength, extraordinary courage which come from within which one musters during the course of the wonderful journey called motherhood.

Let’s meet, such a wonder woman, a brave hearted iron lady, Sharmi Roy who is keeping no stones unturned for the treatment of her 3 year old boy who is suffering from chronic congenital kidney problems. Sharmi’s son, Arnesh requires regular dialysis and this Iron Lady is planning to donate her kidney as the little boy grows up.

Sharmi stands out to be a figure who represents the sheer determination of a mother.

So here’s her story in her own words:

At first when you came to know about your child’s health condition, how did you deal with it?

I was devastated because it was my 2nd mishap as before my son Arnesh I gave birth to my first daughter who died just within 15 days after her birth .This time I didn’t wanted to lose my son . I used to question God that why I had to go through all these things. But with time I understood that I was the chosen one who can take the best care of my son so for that reason I started to take things easy and deal with patience because my one wrong decision can worsen the entire scenario.

How do you tackle all these situations throughout?

With times I have mastered the way to tackle these situations as I constantly keep myself updated with the information about CNS patients and also connected to groups where all the CNS patients’ parents are in touch with each other.

Who has been your constant support system?

I can’t really mention only a single person for supporting me my husband Arnab Roy, my dad and my mom all are my support system mentally, physically and financially.

How do you manage time especially having a new born?

 It’s really difficult in the beginning but now I have made a proper schedule for both my kids and try to follow that as time management is very important for me.

 What keeps you motivated, owing to the fact that you are an entrepreneur?

Success is what motivates me to do a good job. Knowing the fact that my hard work and perseverance will help me achieve greater professional success is what keeps me going. I want to challenge myself constantly. It is necessary to keep refining one’s skills and never stop learning .My mom is my role model.

What will be your message for other mothers?

 Every moms are best no special message only I would like to say that just  raise your kids with good values, inculcate good qualities within your kids from the very beginning and be their best friend so that they share everything with us .

Kids are like soft clay we parents can mould them as we want to, proper guidance will help to create a great future for your kids

An M.tech and PhD pursuer Sharmi left her prospective career only to carry out the bigger responsibility of a mother. Now she is the proud owner of a handmade jewelry brand “Goynaar Baksho”, managing her set up, looking after her two kids and strongly handling her son’s health condition.

We believe that’s the Superpower of A Mom: “Never Give Up”.

Interviewed & Authored By @Urmi Chakrabarti

Meet Hafiza & Rakiba Sultana: The Sister Duo is A Must Watch For Their Exceptionally Melodious Mash-Ups

I have always believed in the fact that Talent knows no age. It is a God-gifted element that gradually nurtures and nourishes to bloom into efficiency. Today as I introduce to you this new section “Real Life Celebrity”, I would like to begin with the story of a young girl whose only passion was to voice out her emotions, expressions and every facet of her life through songs. She believes to define herself through the art of her voice and it wouldn’t be an exaggeration at all if I ever say that this young girl has all the talent to become a singing sensation in the coming times.

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Before moving further, let us have a quick trailer of her mesmerizing voice.

Introducing to you Hafiza Sultana, a girl studying in 12’th standard who sings no less than a sensational star.

The magic of her voice not only lies in her ability to create a melodious magic from every song but also to recreate beautiful mash-ups that very few people can ever even think of.

Singing has been an inherent talent within her since long and undertaking classical music sessions since the age of 10 made it go strong.

The Other Lovely Half

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Was It A Smooth Journey For This Duo To Follow Their Dreams?

Coming from a Muslim conservative background, their journey had not been a smooth bed of roses. In fact, it was solely their parents’ support that guided them to tread on their path of passion without facing much hurdles.

Kudos to such parents who believe to take their childrens’ dreams ahead crossing all barriers of so called caste systems and their stereotyping!

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We wish this beautiful sister duo all the Best Wishes to prosper ahead and make their journey go along with their brilliant aptitudes and their “never to give up” mindsets.

If you too have a hidden celebrity inside, don’t feel shy to share your stories with us at socialconnoisseurs@gmail.com

Remember we are here to listen to you.

Sandeep Atre’s Socialigence: A Boon For Realizing Non-Verbal Social Behaviour

There was once a time when academic qualifications were enough to be a part of and sustain in a social organization. However with changing times, it has become a crucial aspect to realize and understand the social behavior of fellow colleagues when you are eager to sustain in an organization. This is not only the scenario of a workplace but in fact every other social or personal space where you are in constant interaction with pople. It is quite easy to crack and realize spoken words and behavior but what happens when the code of behavior is only a set of reactions? Well, in these situations, it is indeed a difficult challenge.

However during one of my interviewing sessions, I chanced to come across Sandeep Atre, a psychologist who holds in his bag of wisdom the key to all social behavioral solutions. In fact, Socialigence, an online platform strives to reach out to people who are indeed interested to crack and understand every sort of unsaid social behavior.

Before I pen down the details about my one to one interaction with this genius, I would love to enlighten my readers a bit about Sandeep Atre. Apart from being a well-informed, experienced psychologist Mr. Atre is a PHD scholar and is also the founder and Director of Socialigence.

Socialigence is indeed a one of its kind platform that endeavors to provide a complete end to end online tutorial session for amateurs to experienced people helping to understand the several intricate patterns of social behavior. Whether you are a parent, a teacher, a boss, a founder or an employee, Socialigence has the solution for one and all with their curated and researched content and video tutorials. As Mr. Atre confirmed that “All the courses have been designed in a very specific manner and thus can cater to several profiles.”

There are pre-recorded videos on the forum where there would be tutorials on the interpretations of different kinds of behavioral code, for example the movement of hands while speaking or the touch of hands when a person is trying to make a point. A person can have access to all these videos as many times for a year and his understanding and realization of the video shall also be judged on a sample test where an exercise of 10 questions will be provided.

Moreover in case of any sort of interruption or glitch that an user faces during the video, he is free to contact or reach out Socialigence or contact personally Mr. Atre via mail for the clearance of doubts. Well such an interactive platform in the field of social behavioral learning is indeed one of its kind till date.

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Coming back to Mr. Sandeep Atre, this had been indeed one of the best of interviews conducted by me. The reason is the in depth informative session that we happened to come across. The interaction undoubtedly established that he is a man of extreme genius when it comes to the judgment of social behavior.

When I asked him that What Interested him to Get Into Socialigence, his answer was simple but enlightening. It was during his Researching, he found Social Intellligence can be broadly intersected into Inter-personal and non-verbal communication. The field of non-verbal communication is indeed huge. For example, Body can show only the emotional state and face shows the exact emotion. In both anger and love, both will look at the person with the same intensity, so it is indeed a difficult task to judge the kind of EMOTIONAL STATE. And Socialigence’s tutorials help you to realize or judge the positive or the negative vibes conveyed by the emotional state. Since “word express thoughts and body express emotions” as conveyed by Mr. Atre, it is in fact a challenging task to interpret the latter one.

When asked about whether Socialigence helps to interpret social media behavior, well yes, Mr. Atre had an answer to that too. As per Mr. Atre there are certain codes of smiles and gestures that are decoded in the tutorials provided by Socialigence.

For example when both the muscles are exercised in a smile, we know the whole smile is a whole-hearted and true one. But when you come across Deuschen smile or a smile where only a single muscle is exercised, it is in fact a fake one. According to Mr. Atre, “When one needs to create a contact, it is only the exchange of factual information. But when one focuses to establish a connect, there is a necessity of exchange of an emotional information”. And thus Socialigence guides you to interpret this emotional information.

The role of Socialigence is also quite crucial for parents of today. Teenagers are children who are glued to social media and often adopt lies and fake stories for justifying themselves, can only be understood and analyzed if they are emotionally comprehensible. And yes, Mr. Atre’s specific designing of courses looks after that too.

Some Notable Achievements of Mr. Atre are:

Sandeep Atre has taken upon himself to venture into spreading knowledge and awareness about the impact of psychologist on people through CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organisation of central India for close to two decades, as a team of close to 100 people.

He has trained more than 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ and ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’. He is also a Promoter-Director of EduBirds – a venture in commerce education.

He  also carries in his bag of authorship: “Understanding Emotions Logically – A layman’s guide to the foundations of Social Intelligence” and “Observing Nonverbal Behaviour – An exhaustive guide to the essential skill of Social Intelligence”.

He has featured as a ‘Management & Motivational Speaker’ at various prestigious platforms like IIM, IIT, RRCAT, Rotary International, Lions International, National Entrepreneurship Network (NEN), State’s Teachers’ Training Program, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police Training Academy and more than 100 institutions.

A noted blogger and an author of various articles, columns and research papers published in reputable magazines, compendiums and journals; he has served on various editorial and advisory boards, and has also been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association and Associate Editor of its publications.

Thank you Mr. Atre for such an enlightening session. Interacting with you had been one of the most informative sessions for Social Connoisseurs.

Anamika Yaduvanshi’s ‘ASTITVA’: A Platform for An Independent Identity

A few days, I came across Astitva, a NGO, reaching out to women of the underprivileged sections, trying to make them capable and independent of living a better life. In the present days of women empowerment and emancipation, many a women are coming out of their domestic shells in order to redefine their lives or attribute their identity a dignified living. However while women of the upper classes or upper middle classes or even the usual middle classes can cross their domestic barriers easily for their education and standards of living, it becomes a problem for the deprived sections of the society.

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During my blogging career, I have met various personalities and dignitaries; however the tryst with Astitva and its members had left quite indelible imprints on my memory. Anamika Yaduvanshi, the lady behind this beautiful creation, has tried to bring together the like minded girls who would be keen to ascertain an individual identity. With such inspiring minds as members, Anamika Yaduvanshi’s Astitva seeks to reach out to those girls and women helping them to discover a true identity.

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Most of the times, we come across deprived women who due to their inconsistent educational background are not able to attain a financial stability. The result is they have to dependant solely on their husbands or the earning guardian of the family. At Astitva, they are extended a platform to learn vocational skills like crochet crafts, handiworks and other professional skills that would enable them to pitch a source of financial income in the long run.

Anamika Yaduvanshi, a celebrated life coach and Tarot card reader has been able to rekindle a new hope amidst these women by directing their dreams. A glimpse through their works and their indomitable spirits made me understand how privileged we are to enjoy a comparatively smooth and seamless life.

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The bag of credits definitely goes to Anamika Yaduvanshi who by her serious and strong efforts have moulded better hopes for these beautiful lives. Astitva has put up exhibitions and their products have received great response. A day in the company of Astitva has been indeed a memorable one witnessing so many hopeful smiles brought about by a super woman like Mrs. Yaduvanshi.

Meet Ritu Agarwal: An Iconic Voice Redefining The Ae Dil Hai Mushkil Number

 

Ae Dil Hai Mushkil, the recently released song from the voice of Arijit Singh has been topping the playlists of many music fans. In fact the lyrics, the soothing voice of Arijit Singh and the shinning cast of the flick makes it a more appealing number.

However leaving behind the hyped Arijit Singh, let us introduce to you another singer whose YouTube video has redefined the number with her soothing voice.

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Image Credits: Voice India

Introducing to you Ritu Agarwal, the veteran singer from Voice India whose video has managed to achieve 2,00,000 views only within a week of its upload.

Going through this video personally has proved that she is going to make a promising statement in the long run.

Here is the You Tube Link to the song.

With such a mesmerizing voice, she is undoubtedly our Star of the Month.

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Meet Naaz Joshi: The First Transgender Woman to Feature Herself on An Indian Magazine Cover: A Tale of Ceasless Inspiration

The transgender identity has always been the “third” identity in the Indian society. We were lucky enough to come across a woman from the transgender status who carries with her a saga of ceaseless inspiration. Meet Naaz Joshi.

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India is gearing up in its thoughts and you cannot miss the fact that we are changing. A change that was long anticipated in the Indian line of orthodox thoughts has finally shown its traces. And here you have enough proof. Naaz Joshi, India’s first transgender lady appeared as the cover girl in one of India’s latest fashion magazine. Combining in herself the traits of a fashion stylist and columnist, a model herself as well as well as a model manager, Naaz’s transgender identity did not limit herself from being engaged with leading Bollywood fashion icons like Neha Dhupia, Riya Sen, Ex-cabinet minister Shelja Kumari or the late model Viveka Babajee. Kudos to her talent that acted as the muse to set her foot in the glamour world!

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Naaz’s profile is not limited only to her glamourous profession. It is her sheer determination and inspiring and never to bow down traits which made her stand true to her name Naaz, interpreting pride. Hailing from a middle class family based in Mexico,Naaz was born with her twin brother late Chirag Joshi.

In order to avoid the hush hush of the society, Naaz’s father had sent her off to one of her distant relative’s place considering the fact that she was born a transgender. However Naaz could continue her formal academics only till 8th standard since she lost her brother at an early age. Chirag had expired as a patient of cancer. It was then Naaz switched over to Delhi and started living with her family and taking charge of her brother’s business. A person who could establish such zeal at such a young age is indeed inspiring.

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Naaz’s Journey in the Realm of Fashion

The keen appetite for fashion was there in Naaz since a very early age that provoked her to take marketing strategies and public relation session from her dearest brother. This in the long run enabled her to pursue a career in the fashion spectrum. Ask Naaz how fashion designing happened to her and she says, “I was merely 12 when I started my career by designing beautiful diyas for Diwali meals. As soon as I turned 14, because I looked older than my age, I started working backstage for the Sunder Verma, Rohit Bal, Ravi Bajaj, Payal Jain and Abu Jani Sandeep Khosla shows. I was mesmerized by Madhu Sapre’s style when she was crowned Miss India in 1992, and soon I started following fashion institutes and event companies so that I could give wings to my dreams.”

Milestones She Covered

That determination brought her to Pearl Academy in 1998 where she did her first student fashion design showwith top models like Mehar Bhasin, Dipannita Sharma and Sonalika Sahay. Thereafter, Naaz got into NIFT and even won the most creative designer of the year award for her designer lehengas and got to work closely with super models like Noyonika Chatterjee, Bhawna Sharma and Lakshmi Rana. Continuing the story, she adds, “After that, I polished my Indian wear designing skills by working with brands like Ritu Kumar, Ritu Beri, Adarsh Gill and Divya Bindra. I have also done certificate courses in fashion from the Singapore School of Fashion. In 2007, I launched my own label and started retailing from a number of big stores.”

India is still stuck in its dark shadows of orthodox values that disrespect the third gender and Naaz could not escape the pangs of the situation too. She became a poor victim of the look down glances and the secret whispers. She went through breast augmentation surgery in 2013, sex re-assignment in 2014 and eventually a breast removal surgery because of cancer in 2015. Her struggle and sheer courage to confront such hardships prove that there is nothing to consider the transgender as an exception from the society.

The Dark Upheavals She Had To Overcome

Ask Naaz how difficult it was to face society and she says, “When I decided to undergo a change, my own so-called friends left me. I also worked as a cabaret dancer at night in order to feed myself. People used to hate us during the day but the same people were ready to pay a price for our glamour at night. I landed up in prostitution so that by working as an escort, I could save funds for the surgery. My clients stopped coming to me and I went through so much emotional distress that I tried committing suicide thrice but failed.”

Our society that boasts of a hyped growth and hyperbolic progress is still the same in its shabby thoughts and Naaz’s story is a true testimony to the fact. I still remember how my family itself used to give estranged looks to the third gender woman. Even I have met people who point fingers at the third gendered identity as if they are figures beyond creation. Naaz too had to be a victim of such circumstances where she was looked at with ridiculed eyes. As she says“I was never accepted by my family. Even today, there are many restrictions on me—no male friends, no socializing, no late nights, always wear covered clothes, sometimes I feel I am living like Cinderella,” states Naaz.

Finally The Silver Lining

Thanks to the legal proceedings when the Supreme Court validated respect for the third gender. Naaz could finally quit her prostitution career and pursue her fashion designing craves. She started her own company. This time, she was a one woman army, unapologetic, strong headed and one who wanted to rise in her career. Her indomitable spirits could not just let her down.

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Naaz stands as the owner of Naaz Joshi Designs and has contributed some great Indo Western fusion wear for women. Her styling hunger made her draw inspiration from Donatella Versace, who, like her, took over as the chief designer of Versace after her brother’s death. Naaz’s designing skills have made her a familiar figure in several fashion shows. Naaz now enjoys a broader social identity with high esteem and has justifiably won recognition of Miss Queen Mauritius, Wamba Diva of the Fortnight. She has also bagged to her credits quite a number of awards from several NGOs as well as magazines. As a grooming expert, she has trained more than 500 aspirants, including home makers, students, models, corporate clients and singers.

Naaz: The One Woman Army to Get Inspired From

Naaz’s work reflects it all and she has been constantly engaged towards the welfare of the community. What has been her learning in life, we ask, and she says, “My life has been a roller coaster ride full of emotions. I love it simply because unlike others who are ashamed to accept who they are publically, I came out in the open and took a stand for myself. I love teaching, training students and children—it makes me feel like a mother because biologically I can’t have kids.”

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Naaz reaches out to the society with a simple request from her end for the transgender identity “I beg all of you to understand the fact that we too have a heart full of emotions. At least, listen to us, as we also value relationships. To all the parents, I just want to say that may be your children have changed their body, but their soul is the same. Don’t be ashamed of them and don’t leave them in darkness as they love you,” pleads Naaz.

Naaz’s Message

Being an epitome of inspiration, Naaz has her future wishes and desires set. She shares, “Things haven’t changed and even today people laugh, make fun and mockery of our gender. It is a long journey and will definitely take about 15 years to bring some change. From my side, I will try and come up with concepts where each and every member of the society gets to live a life of a model for at least one day, possibly in a reality show like Big Boss.”

Social Connoisseurs wishes Naaz great luck and hats off to you lady for inspiring us with a tale of courage, determination and persistence. Hope we have more inspiring people like you in the long run.