This Single Mother Did Not Give Up At The Most Difficult Times And Now She is A Successful Entrepreneur
Meet Sandita Dasgupta!
She is a teacher, she is an amateurish singer, an entrepreneur, a multitasker, but above every role which she plays she loves to be known as Ritobroto’ s mother. She is a single mother of a 10 year old champ and is bringing him up fulfilling all his desires with the best of her abilities.
She has gone through a failed marriage. While many other chooses to live their entire life adjusting and blaming their fate she chose to overpower her fate and write the story of her life . Let’s hear her inspiring story.
Tell us your journey as a single mother.
I got married in 2007. It was a love marriage. I knew him for almost two years before getting married. But after few months of my marriage things were not like before, it turned out to be different. He started fighting and quarrelling with me on trivial issues. Gradually things started becoming more worst. I kept on trying my level best and always took the initiative to sort them out, but it was not fruitful. In the meantime I was blessed with a baby boy on 2009, I was struck with a ray of hope , thought of forgetting the past memories and dreamt of having a beautiful family life. But it was a nightmare. He used to be drunk everytime returning from work and started abusing me both physically and mentally in front of my kid. We used to live with our in laws,but no one protested. He had no attachment with my kid, seldom did he look for his needs and requirements. His abuses went on increasing. In the meantime I spoke to my family,they told me to have patience and wait.
Back in 2012,when my kid was almost 3years old,one day he started hitting me in front of my son, he was in state of shock, afraid, and traumatized. Right at that point of time, I have walked out straight from that house and never turned back. Later on continued with the legal procedure,of taking the custody of my child. I haven’t taken any alimony as I was determined that I will raise my child without seeking anybody’s help.
How did you deal with it initially?
Both of us we were intimidated by his presence. Although we were unaware about what to do next still we were happy we with our decision.
Apprehension was there,about our society,relatives, about how will they gossip about us and might mistreat my son. But, instead of living every moment under threat I chose to move out. I was pretty sure of what I can do, had faith on my abilities, and my degrees. Only one thing which brushed my mind is that my son could not grow in that unhealthy environment.
Who was your support system throughout?
Undoubtedly my family, my parents, my brother his wife and now of course my son. Initially they were also in a state of shock but they always respected my decision and gave me moral support. I used to leave my son with them and go out for seeking jobs at various places. They used to take care of him all day long. As of now, my son has become their entire world.
What were the problems you had to face?
By God’s grace I didn’t face any such bashes from the society nor from my relatives. Actually wheather anybody gossiped about me or not I didn’tcare my only priority was my son and his well being. Initially before I got my job I was a bit frustrated and de moralised, I needed some financial stability, so I used to do a lot of private tuitions. After getting my job in a reputed school nearby there was no turning back.
When did you think of Giving Wings To Your Dreams?
From childhood only I was very much keen about painting and singing. Art and painting was my passion .After getting the job life was stable still sometimes I had to think twice before fulfilling small small wishes of my son. So one day I thought why not turn my passion into my profession?
Back in 2016, one fine day I was scrolling down Facebook and saw some handmade jewellery page. I got very much interested,and thought of starting the same. Started with a meagre capital in hand,I have made only 35 pairs of earrings . I have showed them to my colleagues and relatives . Within a week all got sold.
My designs were liked by all and they told me to bring more of them and pre ordered too. This gave me a lot of boost and motivation,and I seriously made my mind to sell them professionally. Gradually I opened a online jewellery store to outreach more people. Since my jewellery were unique and available at affordable prices I was getting a lot of positive feedback and number of my customers started increasing.
I didn’t stop over here. I have decided to broaden my horizon by making hand painted saree and dress material which also gained popularity among my previous buyers as well as new people.
Recently in 2019, I have opened my own boutique store,which is running successfully by God’s grace and I am now investing maximum time into it. All these were not possible without my family, friends, colleagues, and my well wishers.
What are your future plans?
My biggest priority is to raise my son as a well educated and most importantly into a good human being.
I am also planning to open couple of branches of my boutique to increase the reach of my products. Already I am Shipping my products throughout India and now shipping beyond border are on the cards.
What is your message for those women who are still adjusting in a failed marriage?
Throughout our society we see women being dominated and threatened.My message for those women is that come out of your cocoon and make your own identity. If you are not happy then do not live in a life just being someone’s wife. Don’t spent your entire life under threat and dominance. Be self dependent . Love yourself, cling on to your passion. There is only one life so live it to the fullest.
Interviewed & Collated By Urmi Chakrabarti Bhattacharya